Big Babies, Infantilists, and Friends (BBIF) is actually a group of e-mail lists. The two most basic are the all-purpose bbif-discuss and the low-traffic bbif-announce. There are also the regional lists:
|bbif-bwi||Baltimore / Washington D.C.|
|bbif-dfw||Dallas / Fort Worth|
|bbif-pnw||Pacific Northwest, including Seattle|
|ba-bbif||San Francisco Bay Area|
bbif-deutsch also exists for our german speaking members.
No kiddie porn! -- A warning to subscribers: these lists are intended for adults discussing activities involving other consenting adults, not for any activities involving minors. If this is what you want to talk about, you have the wrong place. Our subscribers are generally an open and accepting lot, but neither they nor the administration will show much tolerance on this subject.
We're free and not a commercial service -- BBIF is non-commercial and not-for-profit, and the services we provide are free of charge. It exists solely for the benefit of the participants. We aren't trying to sell you anything, and we won't give your name to anyone who is selling anything. We adhere to a strict policy of privacy for our subscribers. Many people lurk and never post, and no one is the wiser. We have very few expenses, but if you are able to contribute time, used equipment, or even money I'm certain that we can put it to good use.
Privacy is of the utmost concern -- We don't give your name or any other information out to anyone else. You can anonymously lurk as long as you like, and as long as you never post, none of the other participants will ever know you were here. (Barring some cracker violating the security of our systems or a court order.) This also means, don't ask us for the names of other participants in your area.
There are archives for the newsgroup alt.sex.fetish.diapers available currently. Links to that are listed under Resources on our main page.
This option basically just concatenates a day's worth of BBIF-Discuss messages into one big message, and then sends that to you. It is a lot easier to deal with than 20 separate messages floating around. If you find BBIF-Discuss to be too much, just send mail to firstname.lastname@example.org and tell us that you want to be switched over to BBIF-Digest.
The basic forum remains unmoderated. However, you can receive the same forum in a moderated form. If you specifically request BBIF-Discuss-Moderated, each BBIF-Discuss message must be approved by one of our moderators before it is forwarded on to you. More information on BBIF-Discuss-Moderated.
Every mail client I've ever seen has two buttons: reply and reply to all. The first replies to the sender, and the second sends to the whole list. Some mailing lists have configured themselves to make both buttons do the same thing. This often leads to embarassment when someone didn't intend to send a message to the whole list. For some of the sensitive topics that people chat about on the list, I would rather err on the safe side.